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Turning the tables on a toxic culture
Melinda Tankard Reist spends a fair bit of time in fairly grubby places. She says it's paying off.

Paul Thomas: Ashley Madison hack leaves no stomach unchurned
When is hacking good, and when is it bad? The Ashley Madison leak offers a curly conundrum, writes Paul Thomas.

Kronfeld's Raro wedding
All Black great Josh Kronfeld has married the love of his life after seven years and two children together.

Jennifer Patterson: I'm on the Madison database, and it's changed what I share about my kids
Frankly, I was intrigued. Really? Eight million folks had signed up to have affairs with neighbors? What brought about that level of marital unhappiness - and secrecy?

A woman's sexuality is fluid
Researchers analysed the results of a US study in which more than 5000 women and 4000 men were questioned on their sexuality three times - at the ages of 16, 22 and 28.

WAGS reveal their scary world
Temptation to cheat, pressure to look perfect: "These WAGS are playing the most competitive sport out there: getting and keeping that pro-athlete man."

Involved dad = better sex life
If your partner isn't doing his bit when it comes to looking after the little ones, here's something that might change his ways.

Woman live tweets plane break-up
Woman turns plane delay into gripping Twitter soap opera, live-tweeting the break-up of a couple across the aisle from her.

Heather du Plessis-Allan: Go after the hackers, not the users
The fallout from the Ashley Madison hack will hurt victims of pranks who have never cheated, writes Heather du Plessis-Allan.

How too much sex can make you miserable
Couples who indulge in extra nights of passion end up feeling more miserable.

Vlogger 'a paying user of Ashley Madison'
The man who shocked his wife with a surprise pregnancy announcement as he filmed a YouTube vlog, was reportedly a paying subscriber to Ashley Madison.

Young women seek sexploits free of shame - it's a brave new world
It used to be that young women who had a lot of sex were "sluts", writes Verity Johnson. So what's changed?

Employee told 'create fake profiles'
A former employee of the Ashley Madison adultery website has claimed she was told to create hundreds of fake profiles of female 'members' to entice men to join up.

Study: Being single's not so bad
Flying solo can be just as satisfying for some people as being in a relationship, new research finds.

Editorial: Adultery site hack a threat to everyone
Some might cheer Ashley Madison breach, but it shows even ordinary people can be hit and hurt by the cyber-zealots.

The Kiwi running for Mrs Universe
Later this month Mrs Seymour will fly to Minsk to compete in Mrs Universe - a beauty pageant for women who are married with children, that begins on Monday.

Juha Saarinen: Death by data leak
The fallout from the Ashley Madison hack is a massive wake-up call that all of us need to take greater care with our data, writes Juha Saarinen.

I used Ashley Madison, now what?
If you've ever used it - or you're worried your spouse might have - read on for our advice on dealing with this most intimate of criminal hacks.

Why Ashley Madison's founder thinks cheating can help marriages
Ashley Madison's founder has long argued that the unfaithful are unfairly stigmatized. Not only that, he thinks that the world would be a better place if more people cheated on their spouses.

Seven warning signs you're in a dangerous relationship
Abuse is possible anywhere, so learn the warning signals and be honest with yourself and your loved ones. Here's what you should be watching out for.

Is cheating more 'natural' for humans than staying monogamous?
It seems as good a time as any to delve into one of the most complex and fascinating questions in social science: Are humans even meant to be faithful to one partner?

Interactive map reveals Kiwi 'cheaters'
Hackers have dumped more info as map claims to reveal locations of men and women registered with Ashley Madison - and there are 22861 users in Auckland alone.

Ashley Madison user outed on live radio
A user of cheating site Ashley Madison has been exposed on the air after a suspicious wife phoned in and asked the hosts to check her husband's email address.

Could female Viagra get the go ahead in NZ?
"Making normal sexuality into a medical problem is an easy PR task with enduring serious consequences for the health of NZ women."

Revealed: Kiwis in Ashley Madison link
Council staff, youth workers, health professionals and a lawyer are among the Kiwi civil servants linked to account details hacked from AshleyMadison.com.

Got dumped, threw 90-minute tantrum
Dumping your girlfriend by text is not the most adult way to end a relationship - but what this woman did next was certainly not a grown-up way to deal with it.